Why I Decided to Leave Social Media - Mika Perry

Why I Decided to Leave Social Media

 

I’ve thought about how to start this post FOR MONTHS.

Do I just say it bluntly? Do I ease into it by sharing a story? How do I properly and sufficiently say something that feels so big to say?

I think that’s where I’ll start : the fact that saying goodbye to a phone app feels bigger and more important than it really should. That alone raised the question for me : why? And, how? How has social media become this thing? Asking myself questions like this is what ultimately lead me to this decision.

There are a lot of things I’m not good at (i.e talking about my feelings – I’m an internal processor – math, handstands, and parallel parking – who is??) But one thing I am good at is following my instincts. And, maybe more importantly, taking quick and decisive action on it.

This skill has strengthened over time and it’s served me really well in many roles professionally and personally. I has helped me take big leaps, say yes to some things and no to others, and keep adjusting the sails of my life to keep it going in the direction I want it to go. When I hear my instincts from my heart, I have learned that it serves me well to listen.

So one day, when I felt a thud in my heart that said “Let social media go” – I paid attention. And then it came again, and again, and again. “Let it go.” I started to question it and ask why I was feeling this. So towards the end of last year, I started questioning the role of social media in my life, comparing and contrasting the pros and cons of it. I’ve even taken breaks before so I thought about those times, too. Then it pretty much dawned on me as the following words were impressed upon me in a real, gut-punching kind of way :

We were not made for this.

I have tears in my eyes just now typing that.

I don’t think we were really made to be connected to our phones like this. I don’t think we were made to get updates about the people in our lives through an app. I don’t think we were made to receive hundreds and hundreds of DMs a day – and be expected to respond back. I don’t think we were made to “like” and comment silently behind a screen. I don’t think we were made to scroll other people’s lives sitting in our cars and while waiting in line. I don’t think we were made to capture our lives in captions (even though I love a clever caption.) I don’t think we were made to get so much information coming at us at an incredible volume.

And by “we” I mean our brains, our hearts, our biology, our souls.

Instagram and social media were made by man. Has everything man has made been a good fit for everyone?

So at this point, you might be asking “Okkkk, Mika. Did the haters get to you? Is that really why you’re doing this??” LOL. My answer is no. I can count on just one hand how many times I’ve had negative interactions on social media, which I think is more rare than common. So no. The “haters” didn’t get to me. And I don’t even like calling them that. I think people can say things they regret (haven’t we all?) or say thing from a place of pain, misdirected anger, and misunderstanding. So I think we need to have compassion and not “hate” them back.

The community I’ve been able to tap into on social media has been made up of truly awesome, good-hearted people. That includes YOU reading this! I’m so grateful for the conversations I’ve had, the people that have allowed me to help, and the people that have had an impact on me.

You might also be asking “Ok then. Did the pandemic get to you? Did something bad happen? Are you in a crisis??” The answer again is no.

Actually, something GREAT happened. I got to spend the last two months of quarantine essentially testing out what living a quieter, less hectic, more inwardly-focused life at home felt like. And I loved it. As hard as homeschooling has been, and as scary as the developments have been, I have felt refreshed in a way I haven’t felt in a while. I have had space to get to know my children better. It made me want to find out a way to have more of this “doing less” way of living in my life.

I went back to to that pros and cons list I mentioned and actually sat down, talked it about it with my husband, Russ, prayed about it, and examined that list again and again. The more I did, the more I realized that social media was not aligning with what was important to me nor what I was working for in my life.

Here’s why I am making this move :

 

I want to reclaim my worth not with what I do, but with who I am

 

This one is a tough one for me.

I am an Enneagram Type 3, Wing 2. For those not familiar with the Enneagram personality types, a Type 3’s main motivator in life is ACHIEVEMENT and a Type 2’s main motivator is HELPING. Achieving goals and helping others is what fills me up! It is how I operate and what keeps me going.

Social media has allowed me to do both : achieve professional goals and help others in need – whether that’s in organizing a home, in sobriety, in the challenges of motherhood, or in marriage troubles. I am deeply grateful for what I have been allowed and able to do.

I’m sure you can sense it in my stories, but I genuinely enjoy sharing, helping, connecting with you. In some ways, it has brought out the best in me.

But as a Type 3 Wing 2, my challenge is that I can easily attach my self worth to what I can achieve and accomplish and who I can help. And social media makes it really easy for an achieving-helper to go into overdrive. It’s endless opportunities of things I can do, share, say, discuss. It’s also an endless source of people I can serve in some way. It never turns off, the possibilities are infinite, and it just keeps going – and so does my mind and energy.

Just because we can do it – does it mean we should?

And that is just not a healthy place to put myself into. It makes it too easy for me to place my worth in the wrong places.

One startling revelation I had was recently reading Rebekah Lyon’s words that some of us don’t feel worthy enough to hold onto something good in our lives – whether that’s a tangible thing or simply information – so it compels us to share it and give it away. This struck a HUGE chord with me. Is this why I share so much on social? Because I don’t feel worthy enough to keep, savor, and enjoy something to myself, privately?

I want to actively remember that my worth began when I was born and God sent me to earth to BE ME. Just like my 3 children are the most precious beings to me by simply existing, I can simply sit here and do absolutely nothing and still be WORTHY. It’s almost an uncomfortable thought for someone who is a “do-er” like me, but I know it to be true.

And it’s true for you, too (speaking especially to my Enneagram 3 friends 😉 )

 

I want to live a more quiet life, in a world that makes it hard to do

 

This one is more simple. It’s a noisy world out there and I just want more quiet in my life. To sit with my kids, to read a book, to enjoy a meal, to go somewhere new and absorb it in a simple way. Quarantine gave me a little taste of being less busy, and it was actually magical. We went on walks. We spent more time in the backyard. It just felt immensely quieter. Those have been the happiest moments for me and I want to make as much room for more of that as I can.

I did wonder how I would stay up to date on trends, know what’s going on, or get information on products, services, etc. without Instagram. I realized that it would mean I would have to go browse stores, read print articles, and ask people questions in person.

And is that such a bad thing? 🙂

 

I want to nurture my real life relationships more

 

You know the movie Wall-E where humanity lives sitting in floating chairs that have screens in their faces, and then when those turn off they look around like wait, where am I? And then they start noticing the world around them and start walking around and even hold hands?

I feel in some ways that’s how we have become. I DM with my neighbors instead of seeing them in real life. I don’t necessarily have to meet up with friends to catch up because, well, I’ve seen their stories this week – so aren’t I basically caught up with what’s going on in their lives?? I have let busyness become an excuse to decline invitations, opting to comment instead on their most recent posts and feeling like at least I did something to connect.

I’m not pointing fingers at anyone else but myself here.

While Instagram does allow us to be connected, I don’t think it’s in any way even close to replicating real life relationships. I want to place more time into my in-person friendships and connections. And someone has to go first!

 

I want to find new ways to be creative

 

Fact : I never wanted to be an ‘influencer.” I used Instagram as a creative outlet with photography and captions, and then it started to grow, and it just morphed into where I am now.

It was like, well, I’m getting questions about these things, people are finding this to be valuable, I’m enjoying it, I have a blog already (which I originally started for my organizing business,) this can be a business, so why not lean into this? I went down a path because I could – and then ended up in a place I didn’t really set out to be. I’m pretty sure there are other content creators and influencers that share this same experience.

I have always been a creative person. My most prized possessions growing up were my markers and colored pencils. Art class was always my favorite. I took a dark light photography in high school with my grandma (who is an artist) and loved it. Growing up, I wanted to be a fashion designer. Even professional organizing tapped into my creativity.

Instagram has been my medium for creativity, but I want to go back to working on something more tangible and less tangled up in other things.

 

I want to lead by example for my girls

 

This one might be the one that broke the camel’s back, so to speak. I have girls, and I specifically have a teenage daughter. Without going into detail, over the last year or so I have observed what social media does to someone’s energy and mental health – and I flat out don’t like it.

I have even felt the effects of it myself. And I’m a grown woman. Imagine what it’s doing to a developing brain.

Also, I kept thinking about what my kids would remember of me as their mom when they looked back. Note : This is not a criticism if you are an influencer, if you love Instagram and are rocking it, if you have a business that has exploded because of Instagram and you provide for your family, if you are a mother fully thriving on social media – please know this does not apply to you. I sincerely applaud you! But for ME – I just couldn’t shake the idea that my kids could have a mental image of me with my phone all the time as their lasting memory.

And, am I going to keep doing this into my 40’s? My 50’s?

I have learned in parenting that kids watch your actions more so than they listen to your words. I have chosen to model for them what I hope they will do for their own lives : to make choices that are a good fit for them in mind, body, and spirit – and to make bold choices that may go against the grain of their peers.

 

I want to lead by example for you, if you want to do the same

 

This decision to quit social media has actually reminded me of my decision almost 3 years ago now to stop drinking alcohol.

Back then, I got real honest with myself  – with my weaknesses, with my unhealthy mindset, with what I was trying to ignore, numb out, or cover up. I listed out the pros and cons and saw that alcohol was leading me down to a path that did not align whatsoever with a) my beliefs, b) what actually mattered to me, and c) what I wanted my life to look like.

You may have wondered why I don’t just place some boundaries around social media instead of going off of it completely, like just go on at night or certain hours of weekdays. The reason why is that I know myself well enough to know that I am an “all-in” kind of person. When I do something, I go at it 110%.  Moderation does not work for me – I’m either in or out. I have a better success rate when I just make a clean break.

Much like I wanted to use my sobriety as an example for living differently than what’s been normalized, I want to do the same for social media. I wanted to say hey, I did it – and it’s not bad. In fact, life is really great this way! It’s easier to make a change when you know you’re not the only one considering it.

So if you’re struggling with some of the same things as me above – let me hop in that boat with you, be the first to tell you that everything is going to be just fine, and let’s try going somewhere new together.

Was I nervous and worried about this move? Of course.

I wondered if I was a failure, if I was giving up something good that could be great, and if I was a lame ‘ol quitter.

My husband, as any good partner would do, reminded me of a different perspective.

He said no. It’s the opposite. You are being courageous, you are being truthful, and you are acting with integrity.

That last word – integrity. It is my core word and the heart of this decision.

He also shared with me a phrase that his mentor uses all the time that sounded a lot my instincts :

“Let go to grow.”

So here I am, doing exactly that.

My blog will still be here, and I’m not making any big promises right now but I plan to keep writing posts. You can still see what I am up to and hear from me there. I know. A blogger who is not on Instagram?? What’s the point? How archaic, right? But I don’t care anymore. I enjoy it and I’d like to see it continue in some way. I might even be better at blogging without the distraction of Instagram!

My online courses will still be available, and who knows – I may add more! If you’re a course student, the course is still yours to keep and have access to forever. And if you’re in my membership group, I’ll be sharing a video with you soon.

Our podcast? Well, you’ll have to listen in to the episode next Monday 🙂

I’m going to let this settle for today, connect with you a little longer, and then tomorrow I will say a proper goodbye on Instagram.

So, thank you. Thank you for reading this, thank you for supporting me, and thank you for just being you. I care about you, I love you, and I hope our paths will somehow cross and I can give you a big, real life hug.

With gratitude,

xo

Mika

 

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  • Jana
    May 15, 2020

    Lady you will continue to inspire us all and you are making an awesome bold move. I promise more will follow in your footsteps. Thank you for just being you sweet sister

    • Mayra
      May 16, 2020

      Thank you for your honesty and your courage to make this change. You are an amazing person and an inspiration. Your daughters are so blessed to have you as their Mommy. Have fun and enjoy this adventure called life…

    • doris njage
      May 22, 2020

      Carl Newport, the author of Deep Work mentioned your blog post in a recent article. I applaud you. All the best to you. Cheers from a new follower.❤

  • Amanda
    May 15, 2020

    You will be so missed, Mika! You have always been the most positive light on Instagram and I’ve always looked forward to seeing your posts. I’ll definitely be checking back in with your blog regularly! ♥️

    • Jessica
      May 15, 2020

      Hello! I’m going to be honest. This is the first time over seen your blog and I’m not even sure how I became a follower of yours on Instagram (probably because I am a professional organizer and somehow saw your beautiful page and liked it!) – but I’m so glad your IG post directed me to read this blog post. THANK YOU. Thank you for doing something so out of the norm, so bold, so courageous and so real. It is hard for me to fathom and I have a tiny business in Knoxville, TN and and friends with MAYBE 500 people on my IG so I cannot even imagine what a huge step this is for you. This inspired me to listen to that little voice in my head too, that stirring feeling in my heart, the conviction in my bones to let go of social media and spend more time doing what’s most important. I have become addicted and dependent on my phone and it saddens me. I just finished reading Psalm 139:13-18 over and over in a desperate hope to understand that my worth comes from God – not man. Then – o saw your post. Thank you a million times. I wish you the best of luck and will pray for you! XO, Jessica

  • Preet
    May 15, 2020

    Omg Mika! I feel like you are speaking my heart. I’ve been on this path for a bit so deleted my personal IG account after a lot of contemplation and now sometimes think about deleting my semi professional one that I basically used to only follow ppl I loved, ie. You! And still wasn’t sure about the rest of the stuff that came up in my feed. I think I am going to go off with you, and follow your blog and podcast (hoping you guys still do it). But if not, I respect your decision. So sad to see you go, but so excited to see what the next chapter brings. I will delete mine this week along with you. Hopefully keep in touch this way ❤️

  • Alex Jordan
    May 15, 2020

    I will miss you and your girls, too, but I commend you for following your gut and doing what’s right for YOU. I look forward to your blog updates and following along this way instead.

  • Kate
    May 15, 2020

    Your words and honesty and depth of thought truly resonated with me! I don’t think we were meant to live like this either, forever staring at a phone. I will miss you on Instagram! I deeply appreciate the reality check.

  • Fiona Kerr
    May 15, 2020

    When you said yesterday you had an announcement I wondered if it was this. I’ve been a podcast listener since the beginning & follow you on social for years and you are always so true to yourself, brave and solid in your convictions. Good for you in doing what makes sense for you even though it may be unexpected. The points you raised are ones I often think of especially my kids seeing me with my phone in hand.
    I’ll look forward to the podcast even more now!

    • Amilette Klein
      May 15, 2020

      Wow Mika this is so brave….. something I’ve thought over and over but never pulled the plug. I’ve loved getting to know you on here, you’ve even welcomed me into your home and I tell Bobby you are my “friend” which makes me feel creepy because our interactions have been few, but in a sense social media has made me feel like I know you. I wish nothing but the best for you, Russ, and those cute girls. Looking forward to connecting possibly on our next adventure to Scottsdale. God be with you. Thanks for always being honest!

    • Marta
      May 15, 2020

      You’ll be missed mika! But also I applaud you! I know other people feel the way you do.

      • LP
        May 17, 2020

        Thank you for sharing this. I have felt this same pull. I too am a 3w2 of a similar age demographic so I have enjoyed reading your posts. But, I am hoping to follow suit and also cut the social media cord. I feel like life will be so much more fulfilling and balance. Thank you for giving me that push. And, thank you for being so open with your life over the years.

  • Amy Birchard
    May 15, 2020

    Love you Mika

  • Jeannie
    May 15, 2020

    Thank you for being a light to so many with your positive presence! As a mama to two littles, I’ve learned a lot of tips from you that keep me sane. Praying for you and the next season for you and your family! You will be missed!!

  • Sara
    May 15, 2020

    Mika, your post reasonnates will me on every level! I applaud you and this move, I hope that I will follow suit in the near future.

    Wishing you – and your family – nothing but the best!

  • Perry
    May 15, 2020

    I’m so proud of you! Wow! This post, after following your instagram and listening to your podcasts, was so inspiring. I can relate to so much of what you said and I hope to have the courage to let go of social media sometime soon as well. We were not meant for so much screen time and I couldn’t agree more. Though I will definitely miss seeing your feed and stories, maybe this will push me to leave social media behind too. Thank you for all you’ve done, Mika! You inspire me still.

  • Christina T.
    May 15, 2020

    To you Mika! What a class act, who is truly showing to live by example. Not easy to do in any way- but that goes back to your main point – why?! What are we valuing? Feel blessed to have gotten to know you small bits. Cannot wait to continue learning from you here. Sending virtual hugs!

  • Lisa B.
    May 15, 2020

    I only JUST found your Instagram page & love, love, love everything. I’d love to take your courses – all of them! But I have to tell you … yaaas girl… I feel ya completely – like you see my heart. I have a hard time letting go of FOMO and my goodness, did I ever need to read this, as it’s 11am on a beautiful sunny day & I’m on social media.

    I’m headed outside with my kids & getting off my phone, I have some major things to consider. Thank you so much for your honesty and sharing your truth. It’s going to shake some people and perhaps awaken others, like me. Thank you!

  • Samantha
    May 15, 2020

    This resonated with me so deeply!! Congratulations on listening to promptings and leaning into them. After reading your article I feel like I need to do some deep soul searching of my own. Thank you!

  • Carina
    May 15, 2020

    I know that I always look forward to your posts everyday, your new ideas and your positive mind set. I will really miss you!!
    Wish you nothing but the best!

  • Nelly
    May 15, 2020

    Awww I haven’t been following you very long, but in the little time, I’ve enjoyed every bit of watching your story and I commend you for doing this. You are an amazing person and I’m going to miss seeing u and your family. I will make sure to stay connected thru your blog and podcasts now even more so. But thank you for all the help you’ve given me.

  • Shona
    May 15, 2020

    Mika Perry,
    You have brought so many incredible tips to my mom life. I admire you and your courage. I will continue to read your blog, listen to your podcast and now I’m inspired to take your online courses. Thank you for sharing all of your goodness. Now I have to call my sister and cry to her about this. lol Thank you!

    • Andrea
      May 15, 2020

      Love your account! I’m happy that the blog is not going away and that we can also listen to your podcast

  • Linda
    May 15, 2020

    Bold move! I guess I just rely on Instagram too much for my personal “journal”/family history…but I’m sure there’s a better way

  • MaryJo
    May 15, 2020

    I support you, applaud you, and feel inspired and encouraged by you. Most importantly, I look forward to the day our paths cross and I get that big in real life hug.
    With admiration,
    Your Friend,
    MaryJo

    • Stacy
      May 15, 2020

      You inspire us all. My only question, also having a teen daughter, is do you have thoughts on how to have social media take a backseat for her??? We have downtime in our home from screens but once it’s over, she is right back on and removing it still feels like a punishment for her. I put limits on it for myself and as my choice it’s really beneficial.

  • Sonja
    May 15, 2020

    This all makes so much sense!! While I’m sad to see you go, I’m happy for you. I don’t think I’ve ever been as unhappy in my life as I have been since social media started, and I’m not even an “influencer”. All of the comparing yourself to others and just the sheer time wasted everyday scrolling just kind of drains you. Our brains have been corrupted to always reach for our phone and check in on strangers. Yes, it can be fun but I think the cons definitely outweigh the pros. Good luck to you!!!

  • Grace
    May 15, 2020

    cheering for you in your journey. This post was so thoughtful and led me to challenge how I use social media, what I want to teach my children, and how I want to grow.

  • Erika
    May 15, 2020

    I didn’t expect to cry, but I truly did! It hit me this Mother’s Day and unlike everybody else who publicly showed their admiration for their mothers, I simply enjoyed the day knowing that my mom knew that I love and care for her deeply without having the need to post something online.

    I’m definitely going to miss seeing you and the girls on Instagram, but this was actually the sign I never asked for, so I thank you.

    Will count on that big real-life hug when you come to Manila, Mika!

    With much, much love

  • Lola
    May 15, 2020

    The UTMOST respect for your decision and I couldn’t AGREE more, especially modeling the behavior you want to see for your children. I’ve only discovered you semi-recently and feel like I have to devour all the avail content now before it’s all gone into the abyss because it it SO GOOD! Looking forward to a different paced release of new content on your other platforms.

  • Jen
    May 15, 2020

    Good for you. It is noisy out there. I disconnected from Facebook and feel so much more free. I do keep Instagram for recipes, home decorating …not so much for social exchange. Kudos to you!! I’ll still follow your blog 🙂

    • Griselda Mendoza
      May 30, 2020

      Mika I want to say congratulations, I been thinking about it, to be a model for my children exactly what you said ,” what memories they are going to have of me ” a mom with her phone checking social media often. I said to myself NO MORE,.
      you are going to be fine, God is with you in this path and he will guide you in this process in your life, LOVE YOU.❤❤
      Blessings

  • Alison
    May 15, 2020

    YOU ARE COURAGEOUS! Thank you for saying what I needed to hear for myself. I will LOVE getting newsletters, actually checking your blog on my timing (and not when I happen to check Instagram!) and tuning into your podcasts. Even more today, you are inspiring! XO

  • Emily
    May 15, 2020

    Mika- I will miss your posts, a day in the life of your beautiful girls, your creative ideas and mostly your positive mindset. Thank you for being you! I will continue to read your blog and listen to your podcasts. Thank you for being so inspiring. Wishing you and your family nothing but the best!

  • Iliana
    May 15, 2020

    If you’re leaving, I’m leaving! Lol jk, but this post really got me thinking. I appreciate your vulnerability and being open with your audience. Thank you for being inspiring in so many ways! I wish you all the best and support your choice!

  • Angela
    May 15, 2020

    This is so powerfull!
    I really need to take your example and think more about de pros and cons in my life of Social Media.
    Even tought I am not so active I am loosing so much time of my life watching other people do things and not doing things on my own!
    Thank you for beeing an Inspiration.
    I will think about ways how I can still follow intresting things for me but in other ways and hopefully soon I will leave all the toxic platforms!
    Wish you a happy life and I am sure you will never regret this decision cuz it will lead you to so much more powerfull things!
    Goodbye and thank you for all your beutiful work!
    Ps: Hope people will stop telling you how dearly you will be missed, cuz you are not dead and if any
    one really wants to contact you they still can do that!

  • Linds
    May 15, 2020

    I am so sad. I’m a recent follower and have been enjoying all of the light and positivity your insta has brought me. I have enjoyed checking in for tips and visual inspiration. What I didn’t consider is what that is like for you to ‘keep up’ at the other end. Endless clean and organized house and family always looking perfect, etc. Although we know these things are not always true 100% of the time it’s joyful to spend a moment checking in on your great space when things are negative around me, my world, other social posts, etc. I truly will kiss your pages.

  • Kristi
    May 15, 2020

    Totally get it! Wishing you all the best!! I thank you for all you have shared! Hoping I will still get to learn from your blog and podcast about your tips and life lessons. You are so real and I’ve loved learning from you and seeing how you raise your beautiful family intentionally.

  • Feny
    May 16, 2020

    I’m very proud of you with your bold move. I found you not too long ago and you’ve been inspiring me. I’ll follow your blog and I hope that we can get to connect in person one day. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family and to guide you and your heart to what He wants us to be not what we want us to be. Much love!

  • Kim
    May 16, 2020

    Brave! Inspiration. Integrity.

  • Minoska
    May 16, 2020

    Hi Mika. When I read you were leaving I felt so sad. A felt a sense of lose. But after reading this post I completely understand and 100% agree with EVERY word you wrote. We are here for you! We will continue to listen to your podcast, read your blog & newsletter and communicate with you in whichever medium you decide. Thank you for being YOU. Brava Mika for putting you and your family 1st!

  • Jess
    May 16, 2020

    Wow so powerful! You made me cry speaking your truth. It resonated so deeply with me. You’re a class act and we could all learn from you and I personally will continue to learn from you. I’ve enjoyed following you and appreciate everything you shared to help others. Not gonna lie I will totally miss Paige living her best life! Lol

  • Lindsey
    May 16, 2020

    Best of luck on your new journey! You are inspiring.

  • Karie Johnson
    May 16, 2020

    So incredibly proud of you Mika and fully support you in your decision. I know this had to be hard. You are setting a great example for so many; including me.
    Thank you!
    I truly hope we can stay connected; you are amazing my friend!

  • Monica
    May 16, 2020

    Brilliant! You are one of my Favorites! Sad to see you go but so happy to know you will truly be living out what God has prepared for you. Many blessings and much love ♥️

  • Malley
    May 16, 2020

    Thank you for being vulnerable in sharing what led you to make this decision. Those promptings and gut-wrench feelings are hard to deny but lead to great things! Excited to follow along your blog and podcast.

  • Anna
    May 16, 2020

    Mika you will be so missed! Completely understand your move and that you are following your heart! I always looked forward to what you shared daily You’ve been great inspiration and literally loved all that you share! I found you through your blog and love your Podcast so I will continue to see you there in the meantime. Wishing you the best!

  • Ruby
    May 16, 2020

    Your organizational skills are one of a kind. Much respect to your decision. And will be waiting for those blog posts. Good luck on your next journey!!

  • Nicole Deschenes
    May 16, 2020

    I’ve been loving you and your lovely family. I’ll still be following along here. I love learning from you and your littles and you quickly became one of my favourite IG’S… such a beautiful life you live! You live intentionally and that’s the beauty of you being you! Below I’ve given you the Emery River Co. website (launching this summer). I look forward to continue being inspired and learning from you (you ARE truly an inspiration)… and maybe even guest-blogging together!

    Lots of love,

    Nicole Deschênes

  • Danita
    May 16, 2020

    Three things:
    1. Proud of your courage and leading by example ❤️
    2. I picture you sitting on your back deck with the sun shining on your face -NOT on IG- with Paige’s ‘Living my best life’ song playing in your head!
    3. “Do not remember the former things, Nor consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing, Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness And rivers in the desert.”
    ‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭43:18-19‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

  • Vanessa
    May 16, 2020

    I applaud you Mika for following your . It takes courage to let go and wish you lots of new found peace as new possibilities being to reveal themselves to you. Much love xxx

  • Jenielle Krusiewicz
    May 16, 2020

    Wow! Thank you for sharing your process with us and leading by example in such a bold way. I pray we see lasting change in our society as more people have the courage to do this. I’ve also felt convicted of this and am praying through what changing things up looks like for me. You have been so helpful to me in a few areas of my life and I’m deeply grateful for the work you’ve done in this space. Enjoy this next chapter!

  • Devon
    May 16, 2020

    This is so understandable, honest and encouraging. We will definitely miss seeing you but, cheers to new beginnings and I know you will continue to inspire those around you.

  • Stephanie
    May 16, 2020

    Thank you, Mika, this is something that I have done several times this past month (deactivated-reactivated) so I admire your integrity and determination but most of all your willingness to hear God’s voice and discipline to follow. I am empowered reading all your reasons but most of all for the love of yourself. We know how that has the most beautiful butterfly effect. Thank you for leading in your own life but especially sharing with us. My best to you as you live your truth!

  • Jennifer M.
    May 16, 2020

    Although a bit sad that I will not “see” you on a daily basis, I’m happy and fully support you…and will continue to follow your blog. I’ve thought the same thing – we are toooo connected to our phones. God bless you for following your heart. Best wishes on this new journey. xoxo

  • Aitzi Guanlao
    May 16, 2020

    Wow, this is so brave of you and I applaud you!
    You’ve been such a big influence on me and I genuinely looked very much forward to seeing you feed everyday. I will continue to read your blogs and listen to your podcasts thank you so much for being so open and allowing us to share your daily life.
    Good luck xx

  • Mayra
    May 17, 2020

    Thank you

  • Bobby Klein
    May 17, 2020

    In a world of confusion and division, this is refreshing… a breath of fresh air. One of the most inspiring, honest and real posts I have seen in a long time. Integrity, it hits home, when you think of it that way. This is not an ending but a fantastic beginning for you. I want to encourage you to keep writing, but take your time with it. Enjoy it. You have a gift. The world needs to hear what you have to say. Excited for your book to come out. 😉 Love you and Russ deeply.

  • Randy Roberts
    May 17, 2020

    I think you are totally awesome and have done amazing things for my wife and thus our family. I was about to erase my social media accounts a few years back as well, but right before I did I realized how big of a tool for God I would be throwing away. I decided I wouldn’t let it be so big of a distraction, but would use it as an instrument for Him. I feel like you have been a great instrument for Him in always following your gut to do what’s right. Thank you for your example!

  • Catherine V
    May 19, 2020

    Thank you for always sharing your ❤️! I came upon your IG from a friend suggested because I was struggling with routines with my 5 kiddos. I have never been big on social media but saw some “tools” that would help me though motherhood. I had a choice and I chose you because Of your transparency and ❤️ For the Lord. Thanks for being a part of an answered prayer!! I was able to attend the Motherhood Conference and have been eager to learn more. You are the type of “influencer” this world needs! Thanks for your sacrifices to do so and so happy you chose to be the Influencer to your family who is your first ministry. God Bless you!!

  • Sarah Beth Marr
    May 20, 2020

    I found you through Cal Newport’s blog today and I feel like I found a kindred spirit! I am a writer and mama who has struggles back and forth with social media and just let it go last week. Your story resonates with me so much and I love what you said about how we were not made for this. Yes!!! Thank you for speaking up and stepping out in faith! I’m with you and I’m so thankful I found you today!!!

  • EA
    May 20, 2020

    Well, this post is now featured by Cal Newport… I assume your work will get more traction than ever!

  • Walker
    May 20, 2020

    I found this post through Cal Newport’s mailing list and could not be more thankful for the connection. This crystalizes my thoughts and concerns, even as I only have a small, budding family with just a fiancé (and a dog… and a kitten). I see moms and dads in the park next to our house on beautiful spring days pushing multi-toddler strollers while checking their instagram and while I find shaming them unproductive, I more so felt sad. Is this the parent I would become? I decided firmly that I would let myself be bored or rapt with whatever they do. It might lead to a tougher moment-to-moment existence, but would be well worth it in the long run for our family dynamic. Here’s to hoping your post leads more parents to think similarly.

  • Justin
    May 20, 2020

    I really enjoyed this read Mika. It’s definitely been on the forefront of my mind as well.

  • Debra
    May 20, 2020

    Like several others here, I too found this post through Cal Newport’s mailing list and I applaud you! Thank you for being a voice in a noisy world that is worth listening to.

    In January 2018, I embarked on an 18-month research journey studying the concept of the “good life” and how choosing simplicity might help more of us to get there. It was a humbling and thrilling experience that opened my eyes, my heart, my soul, and my spirit to a very countercultural but oh-so-fulfilling way of living. Yet, in the last 12 months, I have found myself pulled back into many cultural norms that are not nurturing nor nourishing me. As a result, I’m in the midst of conducting a “personal intervention.” Not only am I challenging my habits and once again conducting experiments with my life, but I am also revisiting and re-engaging with my research as I consider opportunities to make it more accessible to a larger audience. It’s available online in a non-traditional thesis format titled “Enough is Enough: Epiphanies, Voluntary Simplicity, and the Good Life” and can be found here: https://viurrspace.ca/handle/10613/13383?fbclid=IwAR16rUBX3Fzj2z8vqknVPH9jeH-w3M2ko8vrjSE38cP4aSRRewSryDFdGnU. In a world that seems to be wired around “never enough,” I believe that its relevance and resonance today is stronger than ever. But I’d love to hear your thoughts, and any of your readers’ thoughts, on it too. If you have time? I can be reached at debralmoffatt@gmail.com. 🙂

  • Valerie
    May 20, 2020

    I love this. I have debated going off social media for a while. It really does not serve us well. It is not healthy in so many ways. Perhaps this will give me the courage to follow in your footsteps. Thank you for your example.

  • Luis Daniel
    May 20, 2020

    Beautiful. I can’t say anything else other than I agree completely with you, with your viewpoint, but mostly with connecting with your intuition for any big decision.

    Thank you for sharing this

  • Erinn
    May 21, 2020

    Thank you for writing this, Mika! I have followed you for years and have truly loved the things you share, your tips and overall presence. I hope you realize that although you’ve left social media, you’ve gained a large group that still feels very connected to you! I’ll continue to read your blog and wish you and your family the best! I’m giving myself a social media break for the next week and will see where it goes.

  • Courtney
    May 22, 2020

    Already miss you on Instagram and so I had to come visit the blog & re-listen to some of your podcast episodes! So thankful that you have chosen this journey for yourself amongst the social media obsessed culture. You have certainly made me more mindful of it in many ways.

    Hugs from Scottsdale as well!
    Courtney

  • Joel
    May 29, 2020

    Great blogpost! I was one of those people. I was on every social network known to man and with every post I would feel more and more empty. So after finally freeing myself from it you get this weight off your shoulders that’s quite amazing. We’re not wired to be constantly wired. So I hope in time you will do another blogpost talking about the differences you’ve felt since leaving social media.

  • Diane Leifer
    May 29, 2020

    I am very proud of your decision Mika! You posted beautiful images and have lots of wonderful tips, advice, and observations. However, I kind of
    thought that posting so many pics of the kids wasn’t great for anyone – no benefit here – just stress and pressure which you are letting go of – Congrats to you!

  • Julia
    June 7, 2020

    Thank you for your candid thoughts! Wow, I’ll be the next to hop on the boat with you. I’ve been thinking about it here and there for a while so, thank you for taking the move so that I could make the move. Your reasons resonate with me -especially the kids watching and real relationships. I also tend to waste time on social media. Thanks for the course thanks for sharing your life and enjoy the quiet. Much love!

  • Jaime
    June 12, 2020

    Mika, I don’t regularly follow any of your things and got directed here by Tsh Oxenreiders 5QT’s post for this week, however I’m so glad I got to read this. I totally agree with your thoughts and while I have not deleted my social media apps, I find I’ve just gone on less and less because I realize more and more how much it’s not really helping me or necessary. I found making my own posts on FB other than announcing a new baby or thank yous for birthday wishes just made me feel bad about myself as I never seemed as ‘popular’ or ‘witty’ as other friends of mine and seeing few likes or no comments felt hurtful. It’s interesting but of the 4 women in my life who I consider my closest friends, 3 are never on social media and 1 with occasional posts and only recently. We take time to call each other every few weeks or months as life allows and I wouldn’t trade that set-up for all the social media “friends” in the world. Thanks for being true to yourself and sharing with the rest of us.

  • Kim
    July 5, 2020

    Thank you Mika ~ this is ABSOLUTELY THE BEST READ I’ve read in a very long time! It validates the thoughts and feelings I’ve had for quite some time myself with regard to how life is so very different for us, our kids and our world! I have had a real love-hate relationship with the whole social media thing, and with 4 kids, who are all now young adults in their 20’s, it was a real struggle to reshape my head as the social media world took them by storm when they were younger. They now get that communicating with others is not about burying your nose and face in a cell phone or computer screen for hours on end. And that “talking” to someone ~ actually requires you to engage your vocal cords ~ not your fingertips to a touch pad of some sort. Again, thank you for a very honest, real, refreshing read!

  • Jessa
    July 23, 2020

    Thank you so much i was just looking to take a break from it or to check it when i just want and looked up on google for somebody to tell me and i am really doing this even tho idk why but it felt hard thank you i really appreciate it ❤️

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